Why I Homeschool

At the start of the year, I find it helpful to remind myself why I homeschool. I tend to doubt our decision every year, sometimes I doubt my own ability to teach, sometimes I worry about social aspects, sometimes I’m just lazy and the thought of getting it all together is just overwhelming. This year I really decided to step it up and commit myself to this journey. Please understand this is really more for me, so that when I have a bad day at school, I can look back and remind myself why we’re doing this. (Disclaimer: I understand everyone has their own reasons for their schooling choices, these are OUR reasons for homeschooling, please keep comments respectful.)

1. God. This is the number one reason: I am called. Really I could stop here. I remember about 7 yrs ago after being newly saved we found ourselves at a marriage bible study. The couple leading the study homeschooled. As soon as I walked in and saw their room and all the fun stuff, and how awesome their family was I proudly stated “I WANT TO HOMESCHOOL!” She politely reminded me that maybe I should have some kids first ;o). Well, God clearly took care of that for us, blessing us with 4.

So starting with the Word, though I tried to deny it at first, I believe the bible lays it out plainly for me. Ephesians 6:4 states: “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” Deut. 4:9 says “Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them slip from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and to their children after them.” Proverbs 1:7 “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge.” Deut. 6:5-7 says “Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”

This last one stuck with me because I wondered to myself, how am I to teach my children when we sit at home, when we walk along the road, when we lie down and when we get up if they are gone all day long? How can I hide God’s word in their heart if most of the opportunities happen when they are at school? How can I truly impress upon their hearts if I only see them at dinner and at bedtime?

2 Cor 10:5 says “…bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ” How can I make sure they learn to bring every thought captive to Christ if they are spending 80% of their day with someone else?

Isaiah 38:19 “The living, the living–they praise you, as I am doing today; fathers tell their children about your faithfulness.”

Luke 6:40 states “A student is not above his teacher, but everyone who is fully trained will be like his teacher.” Which teacher do I want them to be like?

And finally, Romans 12:2 “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” I had to let go of preconceived notions of what I thought homeschooling looked like and realize that I do not answer to this world, but to Christ.

Again, it came down to time: how can I teach my kids if they are not with me during the everyday ordinary comings and goings?

2. Opportunity: The opportunities for spiritual, character, academic, social, and family time when homeschooling are AWESOME! I truly believe the traditional American family is disintegrating. Its too easy to get caught up in the business of this world, running from one activity to the next … or whatever takes up our time…(blogging, LOL!) We can become so busy running around we forget to actually spend time together. Homeschooling affords our family the precious commodity of time. Time spent together, and frankly that’s really what our kids want from us, our time. It breaks my heart when I hear people say they can’t wait for school to start again, as if their kids are burdens. I sometimes feel that if my kids were in school I could get so much done! But I’m quickly reminded that ‘me time’ isn’t in the Bible, well it is, its just referred to as ‘selfishness’. Then I am reminded how quickly time passes, and how few years we have our children with us before they move on to their own lives. If the average person lives say 85 years, then the 18 years our kids spend with us is less than 1/4 of their lives. I don’t want to look back and think I didn’t spend enough time with them, and 3 hours a day just isn’t enough for me.

3. Academically speaking homeschoolers typically rate 37 percentage points higher than public school students. The average homeschool 8th grade student performs four grade levels above the national average (Rudner study). At home, I can make sure we have mastery of subjects, go at the right pace for each child, have one-on-one (not one-on-twenty) teaching, and I can tailor my curriculum to their needs.

4. Social Skills: So that leaves me with my social reservations. In the early days we debated it over and over. I think I misunderstand the word socialization as that the notion that spending time with 30 other 6 year olds is in some way ‘socializing’ my child. I read this in an article by Manfred B Zyskthis: “Go to your local middle school, junior high, or high school, walk down the hallways, and tell me which behavior you see that you think our son should emulate.”

I looked up the word ‘socialization’ and found some disturbing things. I do not want to ‘convert or adapt my children to the needs of society’. I do want them to be able to function in our society, but that does not mean they need to be assimilated into society like the Borg. We are in this world, but not of this world.

I do think they need to spend time with friends, and we have committed to making sure our kids are involved in enough ‘outside the home’ activities like sports, dance, church, and homeschooling co-ops that we are confident that the amount of time our kids spend with others their same age is appropriate. Not too many activities though, we still focus on our family time as a priority. I hear so many homeschoolers say that they over-socialize.

Considering my opinion means nothing, we have to ask ourselves what the bible says about socialization?
Proverbs 22: 24-25 “Do not make friends with the hot-tempered, do not associate with those who are easily angered; or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared.”
1 Cor 15:33 Do not be mislead: “bad company corrupts good character.”

5. Our Goals: We asked ourselves “What do we want our children to look like when they’ve finished their formal education? In Luke 2:52 it says “And Jesus grew in wisdom and in stature, and in favor with God and men.” We want them to learn to trust in the Word of God, to have it hidden in their heart. We want to train them in the way they should go, so it may go well with them. We want them to be healthy, confident, and to know they are beautifully and wonderfully made. We want them to keep their childlike faith, and we want them to be a light in this world. We want them to “always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks [them] to give the reason for the hope that [they] have. But do this with gentleness and respect.” (1 Pet 3:15) We want them to be confident, to have good manners, to be compassionate, to be respectful, and to be humble in spirit.

That’s a tall order for a teacher, and frankly I’m not sure they’d be able to comply at our local school. Honestly, I’m not sure I can do it either, but I’d rather trust God to work through us, rather than leave it up to a stranger.

Lastly, and on a more selfish note, we can protect their innocence a tad longer. We don’t have to deal with peer pressure, my kids haven’t watched Harry Potter, they still like Clifford and Curious George. They don’t wear suggestive clothing or makeup because everyone else does, they don’t beg me for a wii or an iphone, and they don’t look down on their younger siblings because they aren’t cool anymore. We don’t have to worry about car-pool, unhealthy lunches, or bad teachers. And my personal favorite, we don’t have to get up at 6am everyday to get out of the house for school! (This alone is enough to keep me homeschooling!)

Well that’s it, my ridiculously long blog post about why we made this crazy commitment, and why we’ll stick with it, for this year anyway…


  1. What an incredibly well-written and thorough explanation of your family's decision to homeschool. I'd like to print it out and have it screen printed on a t-shirt so I don't haven't to go through the whole homeschooling explanation everytime we're in public between 8 and 3 on a school day! Thanks for sharing that…

    • If you get a shirt made , can you make me one too!? πŸ˜‰

    • Chaundacey's Mom says:

      I found this website by searching for easy crockpot recipes. (swim team practice starts Monday!) I’ve been homeschooling our almost 9 year old daughter for two years now. I knew I wanted to homeschool as soon as I found out I was pregnant, but knowing that we were only going to be able to have one child, thought it was wrong. Well after our Chauny Girl developed a stutter from bullying, I knew I finally had to answer God’s call. I must say that when we are out in public during the typical school day, our ladybug will proudly say that she is homeschooled and what she has accomplished already that day. I just smile because the public already has to figure out why my body is the way it is due to having rheumatoid arthritis for the last 23 years (since I was 13). Thank God for 4H and public speaking because I think she had learned how to handle herself so much. I am now going to pass along this blog to all homeschoolers I know! Thank you and thank Him for you! =) -Colleen

  2. Hi, I'm a new reader. πŸ™‚ I'm glad I was introduced to this blog. This was very well written and I'm truly inspired. Thank you for taking the time to put this out there.

  3. Excellent post! I did this myself in 2005 ( ) and I refer back to it every time I wonder just why I homeschool. It has been a great motivator for us to remember why we started homeschooling in the first place! I think every homeschooler should do this. πŸ™‚

  4. Thank you for this post. I feel very much the same, though can't articulate it as well as you have! So, I may be referring back to this on those challenging days when I need a "pick-me-up" or a reminder of "why on earth?" I'm homeschooling…lol

  5. AWESOME! This was SO well written! Thank you SO MUCH for taking the time to write all of this out. What a wonderful post. I'm bookmarking it πŸ™‚

  6. This is awesome. I agree with you in all this and you really did a great job in explaining it.When it comes down to it It's all about the word of God. It's great.

  7. Well written! What a fantastic idea to ask yourself why you homeschool at the beginning of each year. Although we haven't officially started yet (my daughter is only just about to turn 4), I can see how sometimes I'm "on a roll" and looking up tons of activities and learning experiences and other times, it's just another to-do list item. Thank you for "keepin' it real" when things aren't always going as planned!

  8. Well written! What a fantastic idea to ask yourself why you homeschool at the beginning of each year. Although we haven't officially started yet (my daughter is only just about to turn 4), I can see how sometimes I'm "on a roll" and looking up tons of activities and learning experiences and other times, it's just another to-do list item. Thank you for "keepin' it real" when things aren't always going as planned!

  9. I just want to say that I love your blog and you inspire me in so many ways!

  10. This is such a well written explanation of why you homeschool. I agree with it all! I think I will be posting many of those scriptures on the wall in our homeschool room to remind myself why we are doing this!Christi E.

  11. Anonymous says:

    That is a great description of why to homeschool. I am a public school teacher and I can tell you right now that when I have my own children I would rather homeschool. I would hate for my children to conform to what is happening in public school.

  12. I am new to your blog and my husband and I are considering homeschooling. All the points you hit on have been the catalyst for this decision. Thank you for speaking the truth and enlightening me. It is very overwhelming at this point to sift through all the curriculum literature and websites. How did you narrow it down?? Thanks for any input you may have.Shelley πŸ™‚

  13. Shelly, I have a post on getting started, hope that helps answer some of your questions:

  14. I just found your blog and love all of your ideas. I am LDS, and agree wholeheartedly with your scriptural references as to why to homeschool. We only have our children at home for such a short time, and we have a lot to teach them before that times ends. I don't currently homeschool (we live in Puerto Rico temporarily and have our son enrolled in an all spanish private school) but I do try to work with him after school and with our toddler during the day. We try to have family night once a week and nightly scripture study and prayer, but your blog inspires me to do even more! I love your ideas and can't wait to implement them in my home and incorporate more gospel centered teaching as well. Thanks! Julia

  15. C. Smith says:

    Thank you for your honesty… This is my first year homeschooling and I struggle day to day.. I LOVE spending the time with my kids but some times I do not feel like I am enough.. Thank YOU for your blogg!!!

  16. Love your blog. FILLED with great stuff! I am a new homeschooling mom, and I am filled with excitement about our upcoming journey. I, too, made a list of our Reasons for Homeschooling…and once I 'come out of the closet' to all of our immediate family about our choice to homeschool, I will post my list. I really enjoyed every aspect of your list as well. I am guessing I will need the encouragement, and often, of remembering why I made this choice!I thought of another great verse for you to add to your list of verses under Social, for the flip side (you know, that elusive and impossible thing called Balance!): "Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another–and all the more as you see the Day approaching." -Heb. 10:25Anyway, your list was an encouragement to me and our newest gutsy choice to say yes to God's nudging. Thanks!!!

  17. Thanks. I have been homeschooling for 2 years and you have inspired me to add this to my blog (currently under construction). It would be great to have this to refer to each year…and on those tough days. LOL!

  18. Thank you so much for this! I hope to promote myself to homeschooler soon but my husband does not see it as I do. His biggest reservation, though I'm sure he has many, is socialization. Prayer and the word of God will hopefully change the lens through which he looks. Thank you for heeding God's call on your life! I can see it is inspiring many!

    • My husband read the book “Homeschooling from a Biblical Worldview” by Israel Wayne and it completely changed his outlook on the whole concept of homeschooling. I suggest you have your husband read it if you want him to see what God and what Man both have to say about schooling (public vs private from a Biblical view). It totally changed my husbands way of thinking and we start homeschooling this year!

  19. I agree with every reason you stated, I love it! Coincidently, I just wrote an essay for my college english class portfolio on this exact subject. ( children are still preschool age, but I am "practicing" for the real thing next year. It's fun and I am excited. Glad I found your blog. Thanks for your hard work to help the rest of us that have no idea what we're doing!!

  20. Lovely family. You have a beautiful heart and I will look forward to reading more of your blog. As a new homeschooler I need to be reminded that I was called to this journey no matter what obstacles are thrown my way!I will follow πŸ™‚

  21. Elisabeth Tyler says:

    I just read your reasons for homeschooling and felt like I was reading my own words on someone elses page. You expressed exactly what my heart is feeling. These are the same reasons my family homeschools. Thank you so much for opening your home and letting us share your ideas and share in your faith. God Bless.

  22. That explanation is exactly why we do this. Thank you for writing it down, you have inspired me to write my own, and i've realized that I need to be better about "knowing" why we homeschool so I can be better prepared to share it with people. Sometimes when people ask me why I homeschool I feel like I get that deer in the headlights look because there are so many reasons, how do you pick a couple to talk about in a reasonable amount of time without getting on our soapbox? Thank you for this blog! I know it must be hard, I can't even imagine homeschooling my kids and trying to keep something like this going, but you are touching the hearts of so many homeschoolers out here!

  23. Well put! Many of these reasons are why I've been pulled toward homeschooling our kids throughout elementary school, but I haven't yet. I do homeschool my preschoolers though. Here's a post where I talk about why.

  24. This post made me cry…. and want to shout, YES!!! but my kids are in bed already.

  25. oh, erica, this is precious. priceless. TRUE.i have been on the homeschooling journey for NINE(gasp!)years now if i count that year of "preschool" that i did/didn't do. . . we had three four and under at that point and i was CLUELESS.your scripture-filled post has encouraged MY heart this morning, and let me encourage you that you are RIGHT-you are standing on the Rock of His Word, and it will be GREAT. :)home educating got SO much easier once i finally decided(around year six after my kids were IN p.s. for a year–horrors that i am STILL finding out about)WE ARE IN HOMESCHOOL FOR THE LONG TERM.what a relief. no more "keeping up" with false standards of success, no more worrying about whether they will be able to "make it". . .God takes care of His children.Blessings to you and your sweet little brood!btw, i am using your chore chart now–for the second week. the kids like it, I LOVE IT–you have a gift for visually organizing things that WORKS for me. THANK YOU.~april

  26. I happened to stumble across your blog, and I just wanted you to know God totally used it to encourage me. Especially this post. SO thanks a lot!

  27. Thank you for this!Beautifully said.peace,amy

  28. Hey, I just started reading your 10days of Homeschooling Enrichment and came across this article of "Why We Homeschool". I could not help but feel a "Amen sista!". Thank you for posting this and helping me get started with our family's vision. The moments we have with them are precious indeed. God bless you and your family.

  29. Brilliant! Couldn't have said it better myself. Awesome Job!

  30. I LOVE this blog! I currently teach preschool at a christian school & often use many of your materials! On a personal note, this blog & this post has me seriously considering homeschool my children someday (although they dont exist yet ha!) Thank you for your inspiration! Blessings!

  31. Thank you for this post – and your entire site. A dear friend in my co-op introduced it to me today & it has been a great encouragement – will definitely be using some of your GREAT ideas! Blessings to your sweet family.

  32. Shelley says:

    Am considering homeschooling (my girls are only 3 & 1) & stumbled across your blog. This post is so well put. It made me feel even more drawn to homeschool. I'm excited to check out your blog further.

  33. This was absolutely wonderful and I felt like you read my brain and wrote this! πŸ™‚ (It actually made me tear up!)We are taking our children out of public school for this coming school year and will be starting homeschool…We are super excited! I am super overwhelmed but I have come across your blog and feel more at ease the more and more I read. God bless you for taking your time to blog to help us mothers out…much love from Georgia! πŸ™‚

  34. We are taking our children out of public school this year also and was guided to this page by another "newbie"…thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and your heart. I am very nervous and excited at the same time. Reading your blog was just another confirmation that I am making the right decision. Lots of love from Georgia !!!

  35. I am also taking my children out of public school this year. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and heart. I am nervous and excited at the same time. This was like confirmation for me to know that I am doing the right thing for MY children. Much love from Georgia. Thanks so much for making us "newbies" feel better.

  36. Anonymous says:

    Well written. Homeschooling is the best decision we ever made. I am confident we will never, never regret our decision. It has completely changed our family dynamics in the past 3 years. God has blessed us beyond words to express it. Enjoyed reading your post. God Bless πŸ™‚

  37. Very well written! Thank you for being an encouragement & a blessing! You remind so many of us of why we started homeschooling, the call of God on our lives and our children and what a blessing it really can be:) I’m enjoying all of your ideas as well!

  38. Rana Hurley says:

    This post is/was such a blessing to read as we prepare for our 2nd school year. I have been following your journey for about six months, I want to thank you for your obedience to God by blogging, it truly helps others.

  39. keri kent says:

    We are transitioning from public to homeschool this year with 3 kids, 10, 8 , and 5. My oldest has high functioning autism and being in the public school he is behind. We are taking a leap of faith, being so frustrated with public school and crying after every IEP meeting that lasted 3 hours. Instead of being at the mercy of the goverment I would rather be at God’s mercy and let Him coordinate my life. Your website is great, looking forward to homeschool and reading your blog.

  40. I could not have listed, “my own” reasons as well as you just did. Thank You for taking the time to write this Blog post. I not only enjoyed reading it, but listening to your reasons, and realizing they were mine as well really helped renew my own confidence and drive to continue homeschooling my children.

    Sahm to my 2 little Online Learners

  41. I identify so well with your reasons to homeschool. I feel as if you took the words out of my mouth. This blog is fantastic and the site is even better!! Regarding the term socialization, I believe parents/guardians are responsible for teaching appropriate social behavior/manners. This word is misused/misunderstood. Interaction is the word I have choosen for when my children are with peers. It is necessary, but only in small doses! Thanks for the site/blog! May the LORD continue to bless you and your family and may you be encouraged daily on this path. You ar ea great encouragement to me!

  42. Courtney Bollino says:

    I stumbled upon your blog about a month ago….and let me tell you, this is a great blog!! My two sisters and I were Homeschoold up unto High school for 2 of us, and my other sister, up until Jr. High. I am going to start Homeschooling my preschooler in about 2 weeks!! I read this article, and it sure spoke to me. I was myself, struggling with the socialazation aspect, thinking, ok, great, my kids won’t be around other kids. BUT, I read your point, and it is sooo true. This really spoke to my heart, and I appreciate you posting this and speaking so honestly and warmly. I know can go and HS my son with no worries!! God bless you and your family!! πŸ™‚

  43. I clicked on your website from my friend’s webpage. While I am a public school teacher, and don’t agree with homeschooling, or it is not for me, I enjoyed reading your reasons and also enjoy getting ideas from other educators no matter where you teach. I, too, must evaluate my reasons for teaching at the beginning of the year, and you had some wonderful scripture and thoughts for me to apply as well as I begin this school year. Thank you!

  44. Thank you for sharing your “why” list!! I’ve been wanting/meaning to get this done myself, but I just haven’t had the time/courage to gather all my thoughts and ideas for it….. Perhaps I should write an outline LOL! ANyway, thank you for sharing yours!

  45. Annie Campbell says:

    I absolutely agree 100% with your belief system and your commitment. How heartwarming and endearing to read your words of honesty and truth. I am encouraged and strengthened in our decision to homeschool our girls. As you have said, once God calls you, YOU KNOW IT! We have prayed over this decision since our firstborn was about 1 year old. She is now 4.5 and we are confident that this is God’s plan for us. Thank you for your blog, for your transparency, and for your work through Him! God Bless you and your precious family!

  46. Hi Erica. Well Put. My mom told me these very things when she and dad decided to homeschool their four children (myself and 3 boys!). That was 26 years ago, and now I am happily homeschooling my two boys (with the loving support of my non-homeschooled Hunny) with these same ideals driving me. I LOVE your blog, it’s very realistic to my experiences, which makes me happy knowing I’m not alone. God Bless You and your beautiful family, and Viva la Home School!!!

  47. This is exactly what the Lord knew I needed to read today, thank you! This is our second year of homeschooling. I need to be grounded and rooted in the Word so when the craziness of doubt and exhausting blow in I don’t run away;) Homeschooling is a conviction, not a preference. Thank you!

    • Well said Sister!

    • Amen! Thank you Erica for this and thank you Julie! I still remember the day God laid it upon my heart and I looked t my husband and said this (homeschooling) is what God wants for our family. I don’t know how we are going to do it but he knows ! It is a conviction! This is my 1st year and although hard worth every moment!

  48. Monique Martinez says:
  49. You article is beautifully written and brought tears to my eyes! I have been struggling with my decision on homeschooling since my son was born and I now have made my decision. Everything you said is exactly what I want for my children. Will I homeschool? My answer is an emphatic and enthusiastic, “yes”. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart. Hopefully, one day my kids will thank you too.

  50. Machelle Womack says:

    WOW! Well said! I felt like my thoughts and feelings were spoken through you! What an amazing post. So many of us feel the exact same way. While we feel like we shouldn’t have to explain our reasoning, sometimes we just need people to understand. Your points were so valid, THE scripture was right on, and the reasons are so heartfelt. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I myself am a newbie and so I am still in the ” overflowing joy phase”. I can’t wait to spend time with them and teach them and watch them grow. I have thrown out all regrets of not having done it sooner!. It was Gods plan for me now, not back then! can’t wait to check in on your blog regularly. Many blessings to you and your family.

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