Character Study: Arguing

I am working on some character studies for our family and I wanted to share them with you all as well. I’ve been collecting verses that support issues we’ve had in our household and turned them into a 4 day character study that we’ve been doing each week.

I’ve completed 10 studies, this is the first in the series and is based on arguing, you can click on the image or link below to download a pdf of this study. I will post the rest of the studies weekly.

A Character study: Arguing


Other books required for this study: The Bible (any version will do!)

Each day you will learn a verse, read a story where this sin is illustrated, then discuss the consequences of this sin followed up by the blessings of obedience. I encourage discussion with your children on ways they can help one another to stay free from this sin. Putting these ideas into practice on a daily basis will help them to become habit.

We also do a daily/weekly “Challenge” for each study, so for example the challenge for this week is to “love as brothers & be compassionate”. (Just a forewarning, I’ve found these studies just as much for me as for my kids, and apparently God knew that getting my heart in the right place was a good start to the series.)

I have a sticker sheet for anyone caught making good choices, that’s right “caught making good choices”. I tend to only respond when someone is making bad decisions, and this helps me to focus on the good instead. Whoever has the most stickers at the end of the week gets a prize, and frankly if I think my kids are actually trying their best then everyone gets a prize.

As always if you see any typos or errors please let me know so I can fix them, I appreciate your feedback!

I hope this study blesses your family as it has mine!



  1. thanks erica for sharing this…. you are really a blessing!

  2. Oh, thank you so much for sharing this! I haven't even looked at it yet, but from your description above, it sounds liek something that will be perfect for what our family needs right now. Thank you!

  3. Thank you SOOOOOOOOOOOOO much for posting this and sharing. I really truly and deeply appreciate it. I hope I can look forward to seeing more of these from you. God Bless You!

  4. Thank you for posting this! I look forward to using it with our family.

  5. Wow, thank you so much! It's an issue at our house too. 🙂

  6. This looks great! I look forward to more!

  7. THANK YOU!! This is just what I need after the last week or so we have had in our house!! Why do siblings love to fight?!?!?!

  8. I LOVE this idea – even though I don't homeschool – cuz my girls certainly do their share of arguing. Fantastic – thanks for sharing this study!

  9. Thank you! I LOVE these!

  10. YEAH!!!! I loved your idea for "Love One Another" and now arguing. Perfect in my house as the holidays draw near. Can't wait to see the other studies. I will be first in line to get them.

  11. Thanks for sharing this! I love it! We argue too much here, and I'm definitley going to use this.

  12. Yes, thank you sooooo much!!! This is just what I needed!!! God has really used you as a blessing!!!

  13. Thank you so much for sharing! We are in great need of it. 🙂 We started it today…

  14. I have been looking and looking for a character study to do with my kids but haven't found one that fits the ages of my children (they are either too mature and complicated or too simplified for my 6 and 4 year old). Are you planning to make all 10 avaiable? I would love to have them!Erin

  15. ERIN: Yes, I'll post one each week. I'm trying to get through them as well so I can fix any typos etc before they go out to you!

  16. YOU are AMAZING!!!! LOVE THIS!I wish I had all the energy you have to get things done. How do you stay focused and accomplish so much!???Please do a post on that! I AM SURE ALL YOUR READERS would love to know your secrets. (and our husbands!)

  17. It's as if you are in my house and seeing what I see! Thank you so much! Downloading now. I look forward to putting this blessing to good use here.

  18. This is great, thanks!

  19. Having trouble downloading – keeps saying not found 🙁

  20. Anonymous says:

    I am also getting this, saying not found, I would really love to see this.Angela

  21. This came at the perfect time. Thanks for all you do!!

  22. I love the charecter study idea, you said you have 10 already, where can I find them?? Am I just missing them?Thank you! Amber

  23. AMBER: I will publish 1 each week as we go, I have 10 done, then plan to move onto another series, but I like to go through them before publishing to fix typos etc.ANONYMOUS: I just checked and the file downloaded fine for me. When you click on the link here, it should take you to 4shared. Then click on the big BLUE button that says "DOWNLOAD NOW". Next wait for the countdown clock, once it gets to 0 it will turn into a link that says "DOWNLOAD FILE NOW" click that and then select "SAVE" to your hard drive.

  24. What a great idea! I was just considering writing something like this for my son. And, you have already done it! Thanks you

  25. Erica, THANK YOU! I have been typing up a list of character qualities and trying to come up with a way to integrate them into our family dinner conversations. Thank you for sharing this so I don't have to re-create the wheel! And I agree, isn't it amazing how much God uses our munchkins to teach us! Here we are thinking we're teaching them, but we're learning right along with them!Blessings,

  26. Erica, Thank you, Thank you, Thank you for your willingness to share. I have felt led to work on different character traits with our kids and this is truly a blessing. Thank you for sharing!Blessings, Tirzah

  27. We have been having the arguing issue at our house too! I am just thanking the Lord for your blog! You are such an encouragement and help to me!

  28. THANK YOU for honoring my little link-up with such an excellent resource!You rock, you roll- you warm my soul!(Sorry- so cheesy- but I am sincerely grateful…)

  29. This is great! I can't wait for the next ones, I keep checking your site as I don't want to miss it! Thanks for posting!

  30. Hi, Erica,I tried to download this several times tonight, but 4-shared says that this link is not available. Did it expire?

  31. I'm having the same problems – not able to download… It gets to the point where I click "download now" and then says it's not available… Thank you!

  32. LISA: Sorry about that, 4shared keeps having issues with my files, I just updated it again, let me know but it should be working.Thanks!

  33. Have been looking into a learning tool such as this. This is great! Thank you for taking the time to develop this for all of us to share. You’re amazing. By the way, have you heard of the book Parenting with Scripture by Kara Durbin? Thought it might be a helpful resource as you continue to create some great helps that maybe more age appropriate. It provides verses for each character trait, discussion questions, a reinforcement activity of some sort as well as some parent tips. Anyway check it out and let me know what you think. Thanks again.

  34. what did your chart look like ?

    • Hi Stephanie,
      What chart are you referring to? The sticker chart for the good behavior? I just drew up a grid of several small squares. Then put a name by each row of squares. As they are rewarded, I add a sticker in one of the boxes next to their name. I think they have about 15 or so squares? You can do it however you like :o)

  35. Thank you Erica, We are new to homeschooling and very nervous about it. This is such a BLESSING. Thank you so much for all your hard work on your blog. I just found this and could easley get lost in it for days. I love it. May God open up the windows of heaven and poor His blessing on you and your family.

  36. Thank you for sharing this.

  37. Thanks for time you put into this! What a blessing! I am new to homeschooling and as lost as can be 🙂 Such a blessing for mother’s to support one another by sharing these type of resources and ideas!!!

  38. Robyn Bischof says:

    First of all, thank you so much for your blog. I use it every year and every year you amaze me! God has really led you in a way that’s overwhelming for me. In your “Character Studies” I was wondering if you have an apple made for Arguing to apply to the start of our tree. I noticed that the other studies had one at the end except “Arguing.”

    Thank you! 🙂

  39. Elva Barrales says:

    Thank you!!! This is exactly what I was looking for. I will be starting family bible studies with my 3 children ages 11, 17, 17. Wish I would have found these earlier during my oldest pre-teen years.

    Thank you again

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